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The Good Mom

5/26/2014

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Thanks for stopping by! Today I'm sharing a story that was published in Chicken Soup for the Soul: The Multitasking Mom's Survival Guide. With summer vacation only a week away - you can bet I've already warned my girls that we'll be doing this again this summer! Happy reading ....

My alarm clock blasted music way too lively for my early-morning mood. I crawled out of bed with a groan, stumbling over a basket overflowing with dirty laundry. Whatever happened to our lazy days of summer? My mind drifted back to when my girls were younger – back when we slept in late during summer vacations. Now, activities like gymnastics, band and volleyball camps, softball games and a number of other commitments had turned our lazy days into crazy days. 

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I maneuvered my way toward the kitchen through a path of flip flops. Last night’s dinner dishes greeted me at the sink. Oh yes, I thought, remembering our hectic evening the night before. We had scarfed down frozen pizza, grabbed our lawn chairs and rushed out the door for my daughter’s six o’clock softball game.

Something is wrong with this picture, I thought, scraping dried pepperoni off a dinner plate. As much as I enjoyed watching and supporting my girls’ activities, our busy schedule left little time for housework. Somehow we had plenty of time to make messes, but never enough to clean them up.  

Whenever I complained, my husband always gave me the same advice. “Get those girls to help you.”   

“I know,” I said, feeling a twinge of guilt, “but that’s easier said than done.” They always seemed to have an excuse.

“How about folding some laundry?” 

“Okay Mom, this TV show is almost over.”

“Girls, I need you to unload the dishwasher.” 

“Sure Mom, but can I do it in a couple of minutes? I’m so close to the next level on this game.”

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Truth be told, it probably was my fault. I wanted to be a good mom – and good moms didn’t follow their kids around nagging them all day. But I didn’t feel like a good mom. I was a tired mom. A grumpy mom. I was a mom who needed help, and I knew the perfect way to motivate my girls.   

“Okay guys,” I said, one morning during breakfast, “today we’re starting something new.” Three pairs of eyes gazed up at me from their bowls of cereal. “From now on, each of you must complete a chore each day before getting on a screen.”

“A screen?” my youngest asked, tilting her head to the side.

“Yes, a screen,” I said. “You know, TV’s, computers, Wii games, iPhones …”

One by one each girl’s mouth dropped open. They weren’t excited, but I was eager to set my plan in action.   

I’ll admit the first few days were a challenge. Like most kids they tested me, making sure I could stand my ground. But within a couple of weeks, doing chores became our daily routine. My plan worked great – and no nagging was needed.

I used to think a good mom meant self-sacrifice and being able to do it all. Now I have a new definition. A good mom builds a team and teaches responsibility. She is more able to enjoy her kids because she’s no longer stressed out, sleep deprived and exhausted. Once I learned to share the load, I think I became a pretty good mom.

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Hally Franz link
5/27/2014 10:44:02 am

You're right, Sheri. And, a good mom also teaches her kids how to work. That is sometimes work for us, but, in the long run, it is what's best for them, mom, and the family.

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Sheri
5/27/2014 10:53:01 am

Your comment: "That is sometimes work for us .." Yep. Definitely. But I'm hoping it'll pay off someday! :-)

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Shawnelle
5/28/2014 10:09:10 am

Nice, Sheri. Love it. Pictures,too. I can relate! Thanks!

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Sheri
5/29/2014 02:49:46 am

So nice to know I'm not the only one who struggles with this! Thanks for stopping by, Shawnelle!

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